The best way to learn to love yourself is to begin to witness all the ways you currently may not be behaving in a loving and respectful manner toward yourself.  Taking on that challenge, can you notice the ways you haven’t been kind to yourself, with compassion?

Practice and Patience

As a hypnotherapist and coach, my life’s work has been helping people lose weight permanently, but without the whip.  Being gentle with yourself takes practice and patience. If you are like most of my clients, that’s probably not something you were taught.  In fact, you may have been encouraged to be hard on yourself—to force yourself into shape.

I have found that the most effective way to love yourself is to first honor and respect yourself. That means noticing your thoughts and feelings without judging or needing to control them.  Loving yourself is asking yourself new questions, such as, “What am I needing in this situation?” “What is the most loving thing I can do for myself right now?” “How can I honor and respect others, while still embracing my own sacred self?” “How can I grow and express the best parts of myself, while having deep compassion and care for the parts of me that are still afraid?”

How can you start?

Where can we begin? By dropping into the heart. Your heart is the doorway to your vast, brilliant, creative, subconscious mind. Place your hand on your upper chest and focus on just breathing. Connect to your Essence. This is who you really are. This is the part of you that already loves your magnificence. A great place to start is by focusing here. Every day.