During these stressful times, I want to remind you how important it is to stay focused on what you want your life to stand for.
If you aren’t sure of your direction, you are likely to be thrown off by every curve in the road–an unexpected busy schedule at work, a family member getting sick or a crisis in the world, such as the all-too-frequent terrorism tragedies of recent days.
To avoid that tendency, it’s absolutely essential to consciously choose your direction and purpose and create positive habits to support your life’s vision. Everything you do in your life has the potential to become a life pattern.
This is why it’s necessary for you to reflect on your choices–the things you do, the words you speak, and the thoughts that are running through your mind–to make sure that if they become habits they will be the thoughts, actions and words that support your life vision.
The great motivational speaker, Zig Ziglar, said, “Of course motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is something you should do on a regular basis.” Sometimes it’s tempting to discount positive thinking because it doesn’t last. In my view, that is all the more reason to persist with it. After all, what is the alternative?
If chronic negative or delusional thinking becomes habitual it can lead to mental illness. Your habits can be challenging to break because they are etched into your subconscious mind as “normal.” Fearful, sad, anxious, unproductive or angry thinking can become an identity and color your whole reality dark.
There is only one antidote for mental and emotional pain and that is broadening your perspective to increase your experience of love. The love that I am referring to is the higher frequency of an all-encompassing deep love. It’s not always easy to just turn on feelings of love, especially when you are in pain–but here’s one way to do it.
Let’s say you’re troubled by your life situation. Maybe your husband, wife or child has done something hurtful. Rather than pretend it doesn’t bother you because you’re trying to be “spiritual,” or on the other extreme, fueling your anger and hurt by re-telling yourself the story, another option is expanding your awareness.
You can do this by admitting how you feel and then asking yourself, “What else is true?” For example, you may say, “I am heartbroken that my husband is disrespectful to me. What else is true is that he’s an incredible provider and his caring has made my life a lot easier.”
Instantly, opening your perspective to include new information brings you closer to the higher vibration of love, without being in denial of your human pain.
Often when global tragedy strikes, what we experience in the wake of the heartbreak is a deep sense of love, caring and coming together.
Likewise the only remedy for your personal suffering is love and accessing a higher perspective. Whether you are struggling with your weight, relationship or emotional pain, the cure is opening to a higher perspective within yourself—one that allows you to connect to and feel a greater love all around you—that encompasses you.
From this greater level of awareness that can become available to you through prayer, meditation, communing with nature or self-hypnosis, it is necessary to ask your highest level of consciousness to show you and grant you wiser, more loving and truer thoughts, words and actions.
The final step, then, is to act on your highest insights. It’s at that point where it often becomes necessary to pray for courage and strength.
Prayer “works” much like positive thinking does. It is not a formula in and of itself for life change but rather a means to help you to make the changes you need to make. If you would like to lose 30 lbs. you may pray for guidance. Through that prayer, it may become apparent to you that you are overeating as a way to justify your sorrow left over from a lifetime of disappointments.
However, you are still in the habit of pulling into McDonalds whenever you pass the golden arches, or making a beeline for the bakery section of your local grocery store, despite your promise to yourself to stick to the items on your shopping list.
That doesn’t mean that the prayer didn’t work. It means that you have not taken the next step yet, which is to re-program your thinking to do things differently than you have in the past. Einstein said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Yet, isn’t that what so many of us do in our own lives?
If you want to avoid fast food places and bakeries, you have to condition yourself to see yourself and food in a new way. If telling yourself, “I’ll just have this one little piece,” or “I’ll only eat this one more time and then never again,” is something you’ve done hundreds of times only to watch your waistline grow larger by the minute, it’s time to use a new tactic.
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To Your Health & Happiness,
Rena Greenberg has had the privilege over the last 25+ years to work with over 100,000 people in 75 medical centers to help them lose weight without surgery.